Told my boyfriend I had a crush on someone else?

[Fran]

My boyfriend and I were broken up for about 4 months. During that time, I developed a crush on someone else. Now, this crush is barely ANYTHING. I only ever hung out with him one time with a group of other people, I've only ever talked to him on Facebook, and it's all in my head that this even developed in the first place. I guess because we both are into science and seem to like some of the same things. But either way it's like a grammar school crush. That's all.

Now, my boyfriend and I met up when he got back from studying abroad in Spain, and we talked about getting back together. He then confessed to me that he's had sex during that time. I felt that I should come clean with him about the crush too, so I did.

But now, he can't let it go. I've tried reassuring him so many times that I want him, I've chosen him, that I want to try again with him, that he means so much more to me, and that I would stop having a crush on this guy if I could, but it hasn't helped. I can't just make those crush feelings go away on their own; I'm being honest with him. But this is getting in the way of us moving on because he keeps bringing it up. I understand that it would be hard to hear that, but he can't expect us to get past it when he keeps asking me about it all the time.

What do you guys think?

[prisma112]

uh your bf sounds like he wants the relationship to serve him in his interests with no consideration for the other way around.

so you had a crush on someone--surprise he was gone for four months. That's what happens. He did a little more than just 'crush' on someone.

Seriously, tell him to get over it and let it go, or say screw it and don't date him if he's going to hold on to everything you do and rub it in.

[caittty]

'If you fall for two people always pick the second, because if you really loved the first you wouldn't of fell for the second'
Use this, as even though you broke up with your boyfriend no matter how long you fell for another boy, therefore don't waste your time trying to get rid of these feelings as your feelings aren't as strong for you first boyfriend anyway...
show him this quote as well as he slept with another girl which is even worse than having a crush on someone.

[squaregrandfather057]

this actually happend to me. my girlfriend and i broke up. in that time i kissed one guy and she actually started up some relationship for about a month and a half with someone else.

we came back together. we been together for 5 years.

In comparison my thing wasn't as big like what you did. but what she did was over the top but she kept on harping on my simple kiss.

what happened was this. i told her, i know this is really hard for both of us. there are trust issues. but if we are going to give our relationship a fair try to see if this can work and we are deciding to get back together that means that we chose to get back together with our past and accepting it and forgiving it.

in due time. we seen that we love each other. that we are true to each other and we can trust that we are dedicated. and we are not going to cheat on each other.

it takes time.

so i would tell your guy the same thing. if you are chosing to be with me, that means you chose me with all my past. and lets stop the questions and move on in order to fix this. if not, i'm not hanging around for this torture. its either move on or i'm moving out of this.